Handling hecklers: Lessons from a comedian | Paul F. Tompkins | Big Think

New videos DAILY: https://bigth.ink/youtube Join Big Think Edge for exclusive videos: https://bigth.ink/Edge ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PAUL F. TOMPKINS Paul F. Tompkins is a comedian, actor and writer. He is known for his work in television on such programs as Mr. Show with Bob and David, Real Time with Bill Maher and Best Week Ever, and he co-starred in There Will Be Blood, with Daniel Day-Lewis. He is well known for his numerous appearances on podcasts, including his 100+ appearances on Comedy Bang! Bang! He is also the host of the Fusion Channel talk show No, You Shut Up!, The Dead Authors Podcast, the online Made Man interview series Speakeasy with Paul F. Tompkins, the Earwolf podcast SPONTANEANATION with Paul F. Tompkins, and The Pod F. Tompkast, which was ranked #1 by Rolling Stone on their list of "The 10 Best Comedy Podcasts of the Moment" in 2011. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ABOUT BIG THINK: Smarter Faster™ Big Think is the leading source of expert-driven, actionable, educational content -- with thousands of videos, featuring experts ranging from Bill Clinton to Bill Nye, we help you get smarter, faster. S​ubscribe to learn from top minds like these daily. Get actionable lessons from the world’s greatest thinkers & doers. Our experts are either disrupting or leading their respective fields. ​We aim to help you explore the big ideas and core skills that define knowledge in the 21st century, so you can apply them to the questions and challenges in your own life. Other Frequent contributors include Michio Kaku & Neil DeGrasse Tyson. Michio Kaku Playlist: https://bigth.ink/kaku Bill Nye Playlist: https://bigth.ink/BillNye Neil DeGrasse Tyson Playlist: https://bigth.ink/deGrasseTyson Read more at Bigthink.com for a multitude of articles just as informative and satisfying as our videos. New articles posted daily on a range of intellectual topics. Join Big Think Edge, to gain access to an immense library of content. It features insight from many of the most celebrated and intelligent individuals in the world today. Topics on the platform are focused on: emotional intelligence, digital fluency, health and wellness, critical thinking, creativity, communication, career development, lifelong learning, management, problem solving & self-motivation. BIG THINK EDGE: https://bigth.ink/Edge If you're interested in licensing this or any other Big Think clip for commercial or private use, contact our licensing partner, Executive Interviews: https://bigth.ink/licensing ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Transcript: One of the best lessons I ever learned was that someone who speaks up at a show is not necessarily a heckler. When I first started out anyone that said anything I was so rattled by it that I would attack that person and try to shut them down and assert my dominance, you know, over the room. Like I’m in charge, I’m the guy with the microphone. And it took me a while but then I realized oh sometimes people are just – they’re forgetting themselves. They’re agreeing with the thing that you said. They’re trying to add on to an idea that you just put out there. And then I realized anytime anything like that happens this is an opportunity for more fun. So I would always start out – I learned to when I was confronted with someone saying something to ask in a friendly tone, oh what did you say, you know. To let them know I’m not trying to attack this person because you have to let the audience know because it can turn a room very quickly if you’re too aggressive with someone, if you’re too upset by it people can sense this. And it’s unpleasant and it’s uncomfortable for people. And so what I always like to communicate to an audience if someone says something is everything’s okay. I’m going to ask this person what they said and maybe we’ll have a conversation. But it’s all going to be fun the whole time. It’s also a covert defense mechanism because if I let this person talk and then they reveal themselves to be someone who does want to ruin the show now everybody is on my side because I’ve been nice so far. So it’s also – it’s win-win because it’s either we’re going to have a fun conversation with this strange person who started talking or I will give this jerk enough rope to hang himself and then the audience will be on my side when I do have to shut them down. But more often than not people are just kind of forgetting themselves or they get wrapped up in it and they want to talk to you because you’re talking, you know. And I’ve had some great fun times talking to people from the audience who just accidentally spoke up.